Yes, yes, yes and yes. The work for me now is more to do with simply trusting my intuition and saying no more haha.
I was stuck circling my issues in my home city. I ended up moving to move on and forward with my life. To learn new things and fill my life with other things. I started learning German, saying no to more second and third dates, and writing fantasy. Although, haha, Substack became my outlet for my intensity around self growth, but more to do with letting go of perfection.
I also agree that it is more about corrective experiences than knowledge.
For me, I had to move to get out of survival mode. I was listening to podcasts all day at work about trauma to dissociate. It was exhausting and I knew I was addicted.
So relatable, perfectionism and control come out in different ways like learning and understanding and fixing in a body or system that’s highly sensitive and plagued by many chronic illnesses over decades. The shift is not an easy one
Wow! Your article finally gave me some clarity on what my sister could have been through. The amount of therapy she did, without any “results” was wild. At one point I said; “it looks like you are addicted to it”. Thanks for the article 🤍
Nina, this is pure gold — the distinction between head-knowledge and body-wisdom is everything I've witnessed in ambitious women who've collected endless tools yet still feel that quiet nervous system hum of "not enough."
Your call to simply land in the body, with compassion instead of fixing, is the medicine so many high-performers crave but rarely give themselves permission for. It's freedom disguised as stillness.
So very true, I've been there, sometimes I'm still there. I never used the word addiction, but I think it's actually a valid way to describe it. I couldn't get enough of the books, and when I wasn't reading, listening to podcasts. I've learned so much, yes I've grown to a certain degree, but at some point it becomes more a distraction of actually doing the work and sitting with yourself. "I just need one more book, one more podcast, to get the answer I'm looking for..." How many times have I told myself this.. So lately I'm doing exactly what you're saying, tuning more into the body, sitting with myself, listening. It's not easy, the urge to just keep researching is strong. But I know I have so much information in my head, it's truly time to listen to my body now.
This is so true.. The only thing that needs to be fixed is the idea that there is something to be fixed. If only we were all be able to feel into the wholeness that is here already, that would end all the search.
This is such an addictive cycle you speak to. It's one I've had to break with lots of intention too finally come home to my body.
And now working with high-achieving women myself break the cycles of fixing...watching that light turn back on, the shoulders lower, the jaw unclench, the authentic smile return...that is everything.
Yes, yes, yes and yes. The work for me now is more to do with simply trusting my intuition and saying no more haha.
I was stuck circling my issues in my home city. I ended up moving to move on and forward with my life. To learn new things and fill my life with other things. I started learning German, saying no to more second and third dates, and writing fantasy. Although, haha, Substack became my outlet for my intensity around self growth, but more to do with letting go of perfection.
I also agree that it is more about corrective experiences than knowledge.
For me, I had to move to get out of survival mode. I was listening to podcasts all day at work about trauma to dissociate. It was exhausting and I knew I was addicted.
Proud of you!
Thanks Nina <3 <3
Feel this so much...this is such a powerful knowing! The environment is either fueling addiction or helping us break it.
So very true :) thanks for writing this
So relatable, perfectionism and control come out in different ways like learning and understanding and fixing in a body or system that’s highly sensitive and plagued by many chronic illnesses over decades. The shift is not an easy one
Not easy at all! The old coping mechanisms provide comfort when we feel like we need it.
Wow! Your article finally gave me some clarity on what my sister could have been through. The amount of therapy she did, without any “results” was wild. At one point I said; “it looks like you are addicted to it”. Thanks for the article 🤍
I’m so glad it helped. 💕
Nina, this is pure gold — the distinction between head-knowledge and body-wisdom is everything I've witnessed in ambitious women who've collected endless tools yet still feel that quiet nervous system hum of "not enough."
Your call to simply land in the body, with compassion instead of fixing, is the medicine so many high-performers crave but rarely give themselves permission for. It's freedom disguised as stillness.
Grateful for your voice in this space. 🌿
I appreciate that!
So very true, I've been there, sometimes I'm still there. I never used the word addiction, but I think it's actually a valid way to describe it. I couldn't get enough of the books, and when I wasn't reading, listening to podcasts. I've learned so much, yes I've grown to a certain degree, but at some point it becomes more a distraction of actually doing the work and sitting with yourself. "I just need one more book, one more podcast, to get the answer I'm looking for..." How many times have I told myself this.. So lately I'm doing exactly what you're saying, tuning more into the body, sitting with myself, listening. It's not easy, the urge to just keep researching is strong. But I know I have so much information in my head, it's truly time to listen to my body now.
Thank you for writing this!
Thank you for your comment! You’re exactly right… sitting with yourself rather than distracting yourself is what this journey is all about.
This is so true.. The only thing that needs to be fixed is the idea that there is something to be fixed. If only we were all be able to feel into the wholeness that is here already, that would end all the search.
Exactly. We are already whole. But society doesn’t teach us to go inside for answers, it teaches us to look for an external solution.
Yes! It’s trying to shift the perceptions on where true power lies and that is always within 💛
This is such an addictive cycle you speak to. It's one I've had to break with lots of intention too finally come home to my body.
And now working with high-achieving women myself break the cycles of fixing...watching that light turn back on, the shoulders lower, the jaw unclench, the authentic smile return...that is everything.
This article is beautiful, thank you!