Becoming Your Own Anchor

I made you something. Use this practice to come home to yourself.

Hi, I’m Nina, a somatic coach + embodied sensual movement instructor. I’m here to help you reconnect with your sensuality, desire, and power, so you can feel fully alive again and create a life that fits.

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You leave yourself all the time, and you might not even realize it.

You agree to host the team dinner before you’ve checked in with yourself. You notice your relationship feels off, then talk yourself out of it. You know you don’t want to volunteer again, but someone convinces you otherwise. You’re uncomfortable with the workload your boss is giving you, but you don’t want to disappoint them. You have a preference for dinner, then decide it doesn’t really matter. You’re tired, irritated, lonely, hungry, and you push through.

There’s a good reason you do this. We learned at an early age that safety came from keeping the peace and keeping everyone around us happy. It’s a coping mechanism from long ago, an emotional blueprint that’s outlived its usefulness.

Over time, all those tiny moments of overriding yourself can create distance from yourself, a disconnection. You may feel flat, or numb, or just meh. You may notice you don’t know what you want, or that you don’t want much of anything.

This is what I hear more than anything else from my 1:1 coaching clients: I feel meh. I feel blah. I want to feel connected, alive. I want to want something again.

This practice helps. It’s a somatic practice I use myself, and that I adapted for my clients. It brings you home to your body, your truth, your yes and your no, your preferences, needs, and desires.

It helps you come back into your body long enough to hear yourself again, to notice what you feel, what you want, and what you know before you talk yourself out of it.

I think of an anchor as the place you return to when everything around you starts pulling at your attention. When you make that place your body, it’s always there and always available to you.

Sometimes women say to me, “My husband is my anchor.” My response to this is, “Yes, and.” Yes, that’s great; and also, your body, unlike your partner, is with you no matter where you are or what you’re doing. In the school pickup line, out to dinner with the girls, at work dealing with office politics, in the dressing room at Nordstrom. Wherever you go, there you are. You’re your own most reliable anchor because you’re always there.

When you anchor into yourself, you gain access to signals that have been there all along. Your nervous system is constantly scanning the environment for information, and your body knows this information before your mind processes it.

You might notice a tightening in your throat or an expansion in your chest. These signals can be subtle. They’re especially easy to miss when you’re used to moving quickly, thinking your way through everything, or paying close attention to the people around you.

Once you start noticing them, your preferences become more easily discernible. Your needs start to matter to you again. You feel your desires rather than trying to think back and remember what they are.

The truth your body communicates is often quieter than we expect. It comes in feelings, not thoughts. And you don’t need to do anything to access it, other than learn to listen.

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Below the paywall, I’m sharing a 15-minute somatic audio meditation I adapted for my 1:1 coaching clients. It’s called Becoming Your Own Anchor, and it’s all about coming home to yourself and learning how to stay there.

You’ll also get the companion PDFs with journal prompts, plus a shortened version of the meditation you can screenshot and use when you only have a few minutes.

Please join me there.